Discovering Dad - The Virtues of Fatherhood

Virtue is defined as a particularly efficacious, good, or beneficial quality.

In order to get through 18+ years, Dads need to embrace, or embody, many of the following virtues:

1. Acceptance - kids are going to do stupid things, like color their hair pink or pierce their tongue, and they will expect you to accept them for who they are...until that changes, in about a week or so. Books about Acceptance//

2. Bravery - even though it pains you to see your kids in new or uncharted waters, like the first day of school or football practice, you must have the courage to let them try things on their own without fear of failure or, in some instances, bodily harm. Books about Bravery//

3. Determination - kids will walk all over you, unless you are firm and consistent in giving them both love and direction - they need to know that life has a purpose, and it isn't just to play and socialize. Books about Determination//

4. Forgiveness - if your kids don't say that they hate you at one time or another, then you aren't being a Dad - they will get upset with you and vice versa, but good Dads are quick to forgive, forget and move on. Books about Forgiveness//

5. Humor - kids are funny, and they like to have fun with you - laugh often and enjoy the time you have with them! Books about Humor//

6. Justice - it is your job to be fair, impartial and consistent in applying discipline and justice to your children - they will emulate this virtue throughout their lives, so be sure to set the right kind of example. Books about Justice//

7. Love - love your kids unconditionally, and they will return it to you tenfold, at least until they are teenagers - remember that there is no love without accountability, but never forget to spend more time telling kids what they do right than what they do wrong. Books about Love//

8. Patience - kids will try your patience like nothing else in life, from the incessant questions to the defiant nature, they will stretch the bounds of your endurance and fortitude - stay strong and calm, and never let them see you sweat! Books about Patience//

9. Reliability - Dads are the rock and Moms are the water - your kids need to know that you'll be there to support them when they need it most. Books about Reliability//

10. Trust - your children learn how to trust others through their interactions with, and observations of, you; trust your kids, yet verify the truth; give them responsibilities, and demonstrate to them that you fulfill your own obligations; always treat your kids with respect and dignity, and expect that they do the same to you and others; and, most importantly, be consistent in your words and actions, especially toward them - the old "do as I say, not as I do" strategy is the quickest way to erode trust. Books about Trust//

There are many virtues that go into being a good father, and every Dad has his own set of strengths and opportunities. Kids learn a lot from their fathers, and they will imitate many of the virtues they experience with you throughout the course of their own lives. The relationship between you and your kids is so important and special - set a good example by embracing the virtues of fatherhood.